Demand More from People in Your Life (you're worth it)
Have you ever felt that you're spending time with someone, but you're still feeling lonely, within your heart? That they are physically next to you, but your emotions are still restless? That's the feeling of real loneliness, and like it or not but you have a part to play in it.
If you're surrounded by people but you feel invisible or unheard, then that means that you have surrounded yourself with relationships that are purely superficial. These are warm bodies around you, but there is no depth there. Either they don't care, or they don't care enough. Whatever the reason might be, I want you to know that you deserve better.
Life is tough as it is, and we build friendships and relationships to ease the pain of this journey. To have support along the way, and to share love and laughter along the way.
But relationships that add to the burden that you already have to carry, defeat the very purpose of being in those relationships. When you feel unheard, and you feel misunderstood, and you feel lonely within, you start to slowly ask less and less from your relationships - from people around you.
And it happens bit by bit. Your standard drops a little on day one and a little more on day three; you overlook a bit more on week two, and even more on year two.. until you have come so far from where you started that you might not even remember what it was that you were really looking for.
That you don't believe that you can have anything different anymore. You start to lose yourself and all that you once believed about yourself, and all that you once wanted from your relationships.
When you hold on to these relationships and you want to believe that your relationships are a certain way, each time something challenges that idea, you tell yourself that it's a small thing - that you shouldn't sweat it.
Never make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
And you tell yourself that the friendship or the relationship is worth overlooking those red flags, but you go to bed feeling just as lonely as when you woke up. Feeling just as burdened emotionally, or maybe even more.
And I want you to know that it doesn't have to be that way. You should ask more from people in your life; from the relationships in your life.
Your time and your emotions are valuable, and when you share them with someone, it's a gift.
Don't waste your gift on those who don't understand your value. You deserve to be with someone who treats you amazing.
If they're always too busy or too distracted for you; if they don't put the effort to understand you - to support you; if they don't make you feel special, don't settle. Don't settle just to have someone because you deserve better.
You deserve to be seen; you deserve to be heard; you deserve to be loved.