Do you want to make your relationships more loving, stronger, and healthier. In this video, I will go share with you 3 most important steps to not only keep your relationship healthy, but to grow stronger and closer together.
Relationships are a lot of work, and keeping them strong and healthy requires nurturance and knowing exactly how to approach them. So here are 3 steps you can start doing today to make your relationship stronger and healthier.
Knowing what you appreciate in one another
Be intentional and focused on how you and your partner are alike - not just the things that you both like or the shared interests, but how are your personalities, likes and dislikes, outlooks on life - how are they all similar?
This might seem obvious, but you would be surprised how often people stop thinking about things that bring them together. Remembering why you’re together, and how you fulfill one another makes it easier to go through the ups and downs of life.
Pro tip - Do your work first, rather than waiting for your partner to tell you what they appreciate. Invite each other into this activity by leading, not telling.
Acknowledge how you two are different?
As important as it is to acknowledge what you like about one another, and what you have in common, it is equally important to know how you are different. A lot of times we don’t like to think about ways in which we are different from our partners, because it somehow feels like distancing from them, and that’s the opposite of what we want.
But in reality, reflecting and talking about ways in which you both are different allows you to be better prepared for disagreements. Remember to say out loud what you need, rather than assuming that they will handle a situation the same way as you. It helps you understand what is important to each other, even tho you might not get why it’s so important to your partner, or might just not agree with it.
Establish Common Goals
There have been a number of studies that show that the best way to bring people together is by giving them common goals to work together. This approach has been shown to work even for rival groups who don’t get along with each other… but it works even better for people who actually want to get along, like couples.
By establishing common goals, you and your partner, not only make sure that you both are working towards building something together - that belongs to both of you, not just one person. You also learn how you both work together - what things are you good at, and what things your partner is better at. And third, you practice how to compromise when you’re working together, towards a common goal. This will go a long way for your bigger common goal, which is to build a life together. Lastly, you spend quality time together, without just passively going through the motions of life.