Knowing yourself is the key to happy life and relationships, but how do you develop self awareness is the first place?
Self Awareness - The knowledge of your own personality, your wants and desires, your hopes and expectations - are crucial. We know that... we know that self awareness is crucial for developing deep, meaningful relationships, for success in your business and career, or even for self-love and acceptance.
So how do you develop self awareness?? Let's talk about 3 easy ways to get you started today.
Stream of consciousness writing
Let’s start with my favorite method to explore life experiences, and process all the thoughts and emotions that come with them using something called the stream of consciousness writing.
Stream of consciousness writing is similar to writing a journal, but also quite a bit different.
To engage in stream of consciousness writing, get yourself to a place that feels comfortable- where you don’t have any distractions, and you’re not worries about who might be looking over your shoulder.
Once you get comfortable, just write whatever comes to your mind - whether that’s your deepest darkest secrets or the movie you saw on Netflix last night…. It doesn’t matter.
What does matter tho is that you follow your chain of thoughts. If in the middle of a sentence your thoughts starts to go on a tangent, follow your chain of thoughts.
The goal here is to let your thoughts and emotions flow freely - putting words to your experience can be pretty powerful, and it’s a great way to get things off your chest as well.
How does it help deepen self awareness?
When you start doing stream of consciousness writing, the first few days or even the first couple of weeks, you might write about your day to day life stuff.
However, eventually, you will notice that you start writing about things that are deeper, more meaningful to you. Over time, this exercise allows you to embrace your experiences and emotions in a safe manner… especially the things that your conscious mind might have forgotten, or were just too complex or too painful to attend to.
Another key aspect is that over time, you will notice certain themes and patterns emerging - you might notice that it doesn’t matter where you start, you keep going back to a particular point. Or you might notice that a similar pattern keeps emerging in different areas of your life.
These things are clearly important to your subconscious mind…. And I’d encourage you to stay with them - write about them, talk about them with people you trust, and maybe even process them in therapy.
What’s the best time to do stream of consciousness writing?
I recommend in the morning, when your mind isn’t occupied with all the routine events of the day yet. Having a consistent routine, like doing the writing at the same time everyday also helps to keep it going.
Self awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering hard questions.
- Stephen Covey