Enjoying every day
The second lesson that my baby Yoda taught me can be best explained through John Grogan's quote - Such short little lives our pets have to spend with us, and they spend most of it waiting for us to come home each day.
Even though my dog just turned 3, one of the things that I often worry about is the day when I have to say goodbye to him. And every time that thought crosses my mind, it reminds me every time that he has limited time with me. It reminds me that while I have a a million things to keep me busy and distracted - I'm all that he has.
So when I feel tired, when I feel stressed, or too busy with work, remembering that every single day of his life counts helps me stay grounded. For me, it started off as a fear that when he is gone, I don't want to regret not making time for him - that he used to sit there waiting for me to play with him while I was too busy with all my distractions.
And the more I stayed with that thought, more I realized that there's yet another life lesson hidden in there - that this perspective on life and relationships is not limited to our time with our pets.
Tell me if you can relate to working long hours, and even at home, being so distracted with random things and drama in life, that you don't always have the time or energy to create special memories with your loved ones anymore?
When was the last time you surprised your partner with a date night? When was the last time you turned off the tv and put away the phones, and just talked to one another?
Finding this balance in life is certainly a difficult one, but thinking about it from the perspective of your dog's life makes it a little bit easier.
Things that you are worried about today, will you still be care about them in 10 years? All the drama that takes up the emotional space in your mind - in 10 years, will you appreciate that, or will you enjoy happy, positive memories that you could be creating today? Not only that, these loving moments and joyful experiences will also help you feel rejuvenated to feel motivated and more productive when you are actually working towards your dreams and passions.
This art of intentional living - Doing everything you need to do in your life, but also being intentional about your priorities and your bigger dreams in life is a skillset that will enrich your life unlike anything else.
Being intentional about relationships
Eckhart Tolle said when the dog looks at you, the dog is not thinking what kind of a person you are. The dog is not judging you.
And that's true for every dog and their pet parent that I know. Your dog doesn't care how you look - if you're beautiful or ugly, if you're skinny or fat, if you're rich or you're poor - all the things that we as people get lost in.
What a dog care about is how you bond with them - how much attention you give to them. People often talk about being the alpha with a dog, which my dog trainer friend strongly disagrees with him. According to him, it's all about your relationship with the dog - they listen to you and bond with you based on your relationship with them, not because they are afraid of you.
And that relationship is build based on the quality of time you spend with them. Dogs bond with whoever raises them, whoever walks them, plays with them - all things that tell them that you care about them, and make their hearts feel about spending time with you.
And same goes for relationships in life - people connect with you based on how you prioritize them and you invest in your relationships. Are you letting people in your lives know how much they matter to you, and how are you communicating them?
When you spend time together, be sure to let go of the distractions and be mindfully present in that moment - and not just for your partner's sake, but for your own as well. Your relationships are in fact what provides meaning to to your life - so be sure to appreciate the people you have in your life, and make small or big memories every single day.
Because when it starts to rain in life, these memories are what will give you strength and motivation, and these people are who will give you love and support until the Sun shines again.
So be intentional about your relationships - be thoughtful about how you are letting the people in your life know that they matter to you, and show them how much you care. And this care and expression of your affection has to be in the love language that speaks to their heart most strongly.
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